Where are you reading from?
Just for grins I checked the stats on the website and was curious as to who was reading the blog and where they were from.
We are so humbled and grateful by you checking out our little corner of the universe and hope that you’ll return to this corner of the galaxy from time to time. Thank you!
Let me say thanks again!
Thanks so much for your prayers and thoughts after my dad’s passing. The trip to Puerto Rico went well and I was able to scatter his ashes into the beautiful waters of the island where I will take my family to and share memories. As my dad would say, now onto brighter days.
This Week in the L-Verse
Stacey Aragon is busy at work putting together plans for more contests, giveaways and everything else that the harbinger of promotions can come up with. She’s doing an amazing job and best of all, she’s having fun doing it. That’s one thing that I absolutely have to have in working relationships are folks you can have fun with and love what they’re doing. It’s simply a must.
We are planning to attend GMX (Geek Media Expo) in Nashville this fall so if you have any ideas you’d like to pass along to her please feel free to send them to Stacey[at]Leonardoverse.com. Nothing is too silly.
PoochieMars has done an amazing job with the cover art for Jupiter Chronicles. which you can pre-order here.
Also don’t forget that Family Focus Blog is running a Jupiter Chronicles giveaway where you can get your free autographed copy of The Secret of the Great Red Spot. Find out how here.
What Qualities Do You Value Most in Your Friends?
I have to admit I got the idea for this post from one of those “idea generator” type sites like “Plinky” that found its way into my in-box but I couldn’t resist this one because relationships are so important to me. After reading the topic I thought, “why not?”
We all have quirks but at the same time we have to be realistic and agree that there are some personality types that we mesh with better than others. We all have pet peeves that get under our skin and although I’m all for love trumping all of them it’s still a growth experience that we should learn to recognize and hopefully embrace.
So what do I value most?
Friends who don’t take themselves so seriously.
I’m all for being proud of your accomplishments, working hard and who you are as a person but when the ego thing starts to rear its ugly head I back off and run for the hills. There are more important things in life than the need to establish any kind of intellectual superiority or ownership in any given area. Most of the stuff we have or do is temporary, anyway. Only relationships are forever.
Unfortunately, I can spot the type from a mile away and tend to steer clear for fear of whiffing the air of arrogance and fainting from the stench. I was very fortunate to find some good cohorts in crime to work on Jupiter Chronicles with me who aren’t afraid to have a good belly laugh.
This is a big one for me and for some reason I seem to be encountering folks with closed minds more and more lately. One of the teachings of martial arts and particularly our school says “nothing remains the same…..may we grow”. I wouldn’t want to live in a box that forces everyone around me to conform to my way of thinking. I find stagnation to be a source of depression for me so I try my best to keep myself learning something new every day. Yes, I have beliefs and convictions that I adhere to but no one human knows everything there is to know about everything. We simply never stop growing and we should never stop learning. You don’t have to be a painter, a musician, or a writer to be a creative thinker.
Don’t mock things that you don’t understand.
I hate condescension. I mean ugly cut-throat sarcasm that is meant to elevate one person over another. Hmm, is there an ongoing theme here? Separately, time management is a big deal for me. I’ve got one old friend who says that when he’s going to be there at 5:30 he means 5:30. That means a lot to me. It means that you respect another person’s time. You follow through with what you’ve said unless something has gone drastically wrong.
I want to know that when I screw up (and I will) that my friends will always be my friends. This isn’t a selfish, “you better be there for me” kind of rant. It’s more of a trust of intent. There can be no honesty if there’s no foundation of trust and by that I mean, no judgment. You can tell me anything you want to but I have to know that you care first. If I’m not sure that you do or the words are motivated by the need to say something that doesn’t matter in the large scheme of things, or even if the message is delivered without constructive intent then save it. What’s important is that we know that the friendship doesn’t have to be over because someone made a mistake. I’ve made some but guess what….so have you. You will again.
And the most important one….
The best way to ask for these things in a friendship is to be those things. Do I screw up in the areas I’ve listed above. Yup.
After all, I’m only human.
Leonardo Ramirez is an author of Science Fiction and Fantasy. Please visit http://leonardoverse.com and sign up for the blog.
Click here to place your pre-order for Jupiter Chronicles!